Until we name the skill we need, we often make no progress. And presto - once we have a label for the skill needed, we're unstuck! We at last can identify what it will take to become more skilled. It might be reading a book or article that lays out the steps. Or it could be one conversation with a coach followed by practicing the new actions.
"What habit are you confronting?" Judy flounders because she double and triple checks, looking for perfection before taking action. She over analyzes and realizes weeks or months later that she's at the exact place she started - certain it's a good idea. Her habit is in churning because she doesn't set up decision-making criteria.
When we specify the key criteria we need for making a particular decision, we give ourselves our own framework for being certain. Without it, any new piece of information or any other opinion by another person can sway us and keep up spinning instead of moving forward.
"What Identity are you confronting?" I realized that I was tying copy writing to 'being a huckster.' Karen saw she felt firing someone would make her a 'nasty' business person. For each of us our shift came by changing our frame of reference from inside to outside. From who we believed we had to be, to examples of people who were a different successful model. We each thought of someone we know that has dealt with our challenge, but with a style we like.
We each could describe how we believe they approached the challenge and did it well. And in describing their steps we saw we could in fact take the some one for ourselves, and like who we were being and becoming.
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